When you see a kid who adores their parents, you know those parents are doing something right. When children consistently respect their mom and dad, you know they are setting a gold standard in parenting.
However, parenting isn’t as simple as ABC. It’s a complex art that requires more than just love and affection. It demands understanding, patience, and the right balance of discipline and freedom.
Some parents seem to nail this balance effortlessly. And it’s not magic; they tend to exhibit 8 specific behaviors.
In this article, we’ll explore these behaviors that make parents not just respected, but truly loved by their children.
Because let’s face it – in this fast-paced digital world, being a parent who can connect deeply with their children is more crucial than ever.
1) They practice active listening
Listening. It seems so simple, right?
You hear what your child says, respond accordingly and that’s it. But there’s a huge difference between hearing and truly listening.
Parents who are consistently loved and respected by their children master the art of active listening. They do more than just hear the words their children say, they understand the emotions and thoughts behind those words.
They engage, ask questions, and give feedback, showing their children that their opinions and feelings matter. They create a safe space for open dialogue, allowing their children to express themselves without fear of judgment or reprisal.
This isn’t always easy – especially when you’re juggling a million other tasks. But it’s crucial. In this digital age where distraction is just a click away, being a parent who can put away their device and truly listen? That’s powerful.
The result? Children who feel heard, valued, and respected. And isn’t that what every parent wants?
2) They lead by example
We’ve all heard it before – children learn more from what they see than what they’re told. This couldn’t be more true in my own parenting journey.
I remember when my daughter was just four years old, she would copy everything I did. If I was reading a book, she’d grab one of her picture books and start ‘reading’ too. If I was cooking, she’d pull out her play kitchen set and pretend to cook.
So, I started being more conscious about my actions around her. I made sure to show kindness to others, to be patient in frustrating situations, and to apologize when I was wrong.
Over the years, I’ve seen these behaviors mirrored back at me. Just last week, she patiently helped her younger brother tie his shoes even though they were running late for school.
And when she accidentally broke her friend’s toy, she apologized and offered one of her own toys as a replacement.
Leading by example has not just taught my child important values but also built a deep respect and love for me in her heart. Because at the end of the day, your actions are your message to your child. So, make sure it’s a message you’ll be proud of.
3) They show unconditional love
Unconditional love. It’s the cornerstone of any healthy parent-child relationship. But what does it mean? It’s the love that doesn’t waver, even when your child makes mistakes or behaves poorly.
Did you know that according to research, children who feel a secure sense of being loved are better at regulating their own emotions, have healthier relationships, and are more resilient in the face of adversity?
Parents who are consistently loved and respected by their children make sure to express their love, regardless of circumstances.
They show affection, say ‘I love you’, and most importantly, they make sure their children know that they are loved for who they are, not just for their achievements or behavior.
This isn’t about ignoring bad behavior or not setting boundaries. It’s about making it clear that your love doesn’t depend on their actions.
It’s constant, unwavering and unconditional. And this unconditional love lays the foundation for a strong, respectful relationship between parent and child.
4) They respect their children’s individuality
Every child is unique, with their own strengths, weaknesses, interests, and ways of expressing themselves. Respected and loved parents understand this and celebrate their children’s individuality.
They don’t try to mold their kids into a predefined shape or compare them with other children. Instead, they encourage their children to explore their interests, to express themselves freely and to learn at their own pace.
This respect for individuality fosters a strong sense of self-esteem in children. It sends the message that they are valued for who they are, not just for what they can do or how they compare to others.
In other words, these parents don’t just love their children — they respect them. And that’s a feeling that kids reciprocate, building a bond of mutual respect and love.
5) They practice patience
Let’s be honest, as parents, we’ve all had those moments when our patience wears thin. I’ve been there, too. When the house is a mess, work deadlines are looming, and the kids just won’t stop squabbling, it can be tough to keep your cool.
But over the years, I’ve learned that patience is one of the most important virtues of parenting. Kids are still learning and understanding the world around them – they’re bound to make mistakes and test boundaries.
When I choose patience over frustration, I’m showing my children that they’re in a safe environment where they can learn and grow. It also teaches them the value of being patient with others, which is a crucial life skill.
Practicing patience isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. It fosters a calm, loving environment where children feel secure. And that’s an environment where respect and love flourish.
6) They allow their children to face challenges
As parents, it’s natural to want to swoop in and shield our kids from every hardship. But parents who are consistently loved and respected understand that allowing their children to face challenges is crucial for their growth.
Instead of solving every issue for them, these parents guide their children to find solutions on their own. They provide support and advice, but ultimately, they let their kids figure things out.
This might seem tough, but it’s an essential part of helping them develop problem-solving skills and resilience.
By doing this, they’re sending a clear message: ‘I trust you and believe in your abilities.’ And that’s a powerful boost for a child’s confidence and self-esteem. It also cultivates a deep respect for parents who not only love them but believe in them.
7) They maintain consistency
Consistency is key in parenting.
Parents who are loved and respected by their children understand this well. They set clear rules and expectations and ensure they are consistently enforced.
But it’s not just about discipline.
Consistency also means being a steady, reliable presence in your child’s life. It’s about showing up for them, in the good times and the bad, and letting them know they can always count on you.
This consistent behavior fosters a sense of security and trust in children. They know what to expect from their parents and that they can rely on them. That’s a powerful foundation for love and respect to grow upon.
8) They communicate openly and honestly
Open and honest communication is the lifeblood of any strong relationship, including the one between parents and children.
Parents who are consistently loved and respected don’t shy away from difficult conversations. They tackle them head-on, with honesty and respect.
They create an environment where their children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns. They don’t just talk; they listen, fostering a two-way conversation that builds mutual trust and understanding.
This open line of communication helps children feel seen, heard, and valued. It’s a testament to the respect these parents have for their children, and it’s reciprocated tenfold with love and respect in return.
Reflecting on the journey of parenting
gIf you’ve journeyed with us this far, hopefully, you’ll agree that parents who are deeply loved and respected by their children aren’t just parents – they’re mentors, guides, and most importantly, learners.
Because parenting isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about learning, growing, and evolving along with your child. It’s about understanding the unique individuality of your child and nurturing it with patience, love, and respect.
As Fred Rogers wisely said, “Parents are like shuttles on a loom. They join the threads of the past with threads of the future and leave their own bright patterns as they go.”
In being consistent, patient, loving and respectful parents, we’re not just raising children. We’re nurturing future adults who will carry forward our values into their own lives and relationships.
So as you navigate your own parenting journey, remember: Every interaction with your child is an opportunity to teach, to learn, and to grow. And that’s a powerful thought to reflect upon.
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