I’ve been through phases where, no matter what I achieved, it never felt like enough.
I’d hit a milestone, solve a tough problem, or make real progress—yet instead of feeling success, I’d focus on what still wasn’t right.
It’s easy to overlook the signs that you’re actually in a good place in life, especially when your mind is trained to focus on what’s missing. But sometimes, you’re doing far better than you realize.
Here are seven signs that you’re in a good place—even if it doesn’t feel like it.
1) You focus on what you can control
It’s easy to get caught up in everything that’s going wrong—the economy, other people’s opinions, unexpected setbacks.
But real progress happens when you shift your focus to what’s within your control.
You take responsibility for your actions, your mindset, and your next steps.
Instead of blaming circumstances, you adapt and move forward.
Even if things feel uncertain, the fact that you’re focusing on what you can do—rather than what you can’t—is a sign that you’re in a stronger position than you think.
Keep directing your energy toward what you can control, and you’ll always be in a good place.
2) You’ve learned to embrace failure
For a long time, I saw failure as something to avoid at all costs.
If things didn’t go as planned, I’d take it as a sign that I wasn’t good enough or that I was on the wrong path.
But over time, I realized that every setback carried a lesson.
Every misstep pushed me to adapt, rethink, and grow in ways I never would have otherwise.
If you’re someone who no longer lets failure define you—but instead uses it as fuel to improve—you’re in a much better place than you might think.
As Thomas Edison once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
3) You’re questioning the beliefs that hold you back
We all carry beliefs shaped by society, our upbringing, and past experiences.
Some of these beliefs serve us—but many of them keep us stuck.
If you’ve started questioning the stories you tell yourself about who you are and what’s possible for you, that’s a powerful sign of growth.
It means you’re no longer blindly accepting limitations—you’re actively working to break free from them.
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4) You no longer believe every thought you have
Your mind is constantly generating thoughts—some helpful, some destructive, and many that aren’t even true.
If you’ve started recognizing that not every thought deserves your belief, you’re in a stronger place than you might realize.
Maybe you’ve caught yourself questioning that inner voice telling you you’re not good enough; maybe you’ve stopped assuming that fear means “stop” rather than just “pay attention.”
Breaking free from mental conditioning isn’t easy, but the moment you stop letting your thoughts control you, you open yourself up to real freedom.
What’s one belief about yourself that you’re ready to let go of?
5) You’re not chasing happiness
It’s easy to think that being in a good place means feeling happy all the time.
However, real growth happens when you stop chasing happiness and start embracing the full spectrum of your emotions.
You understand that discomfort, frustration, and uncertainty aren’t signs that something is wrong—they’re part of the process.
Instead of avoiding difficult emotions, you face them, learn from them, and let them shape you into a stronger, more authentic version of yourself.
A meaningful life isn’t about constant happiness—it’s about being fully present for all of it.
6) You’re setting boundaries and walking away when necessary
There was a time when I thought being a good person meant always saying yes—yes to extra work, yes to relationships that drained me, yes to expectations that didn’t align with who I really was.
But there’s power in knowing when to say no.
If you’ve started setting boundaries, protecting your time, and walking away from situations that don’t serve you, you’re in a much better place than you might think.
Letting go of what drains you isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
When you stop giving energy to things that hold you back, you create space for what truly matters.
7) You’re not waiting for permission
A lot of people spend their lives waiting—waiting for the perfect opportunity, waiting for someone to validate their choices, waiting until they feel “ready.”
But if you’ve stopped looking for permission and started taking action on your own terms, that’s a sign of real strength.
You’re no longer outsourcing your decisions to other people.
You trust yourself enough to take risks, make mistakes, and carve your own path—whether or not others approve; you don’t need anyone’s permission to pursue the life you want.
The fact that you’ve realized this means you’re already in a good place.
You’re doing better than you think
It’s easy to get caught up in what’s missing, what’s not going as planned, or how far you still have to go, but growth isn’t always obvious when you’re in the middle of it.
Questioning old beliefs, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for your life means you’re already in a strong place—even if it doesn’t feel like it.
Real progress isn’t about perfection or constant happiness; it’s about navigating life with awareness and intention.
If you want to take this even further, I highly recommend Rudá Iandê’s Free Your Mind masterclass.
This masterclass will guide you through breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal conditioning so you can live with greater clarity, freedom, and purpose.
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