Communication isn’t just about what you say—it’s about how you say it. Certain phrases, even if harmless on the surface, can make you come across as unsure, unprepared, or even less knowledgeable than you actually are.
The good news? With a little self-awareness and a few tweaks to your vocabulary, you can elevate the way you express yourself and leave a lasting impression of competence and clarity.
With this in mind, we dive into eight common phrases that might be holding you back!
1) “Literally”
We’ve all heard it, and let’s be honest, we’ve all probably used it. The word “literally” has become a common part of our vernacular, often used for emphasis or to exaggerate a situation.
But here’s the thing, “literally” means something that is true in the most exact sense. So when you say, “I was literally dying of laughter”, unless you were actually on the brink of death due to laughing too hard, you’re not using the term correctly.
Misusing this word can make you come across as uninformed or even lazy with your language skills.
2) “I’m not a [insert profession] but…”
Here’s one I’ve been guilty of using. “I’m not a lawyer, but…”. This phrase is often followed by an opinion or advice on a topic we’re not fully qualified to discuss.
While it may seem like a harmless way to participate in a conversation, this phrase can actually undermine our credibility. It highlights our lack of expertise, rather than focusing on the knowledge we do possess.
For example, I once said in a meeting, “I’m not a designer, but I think the layout would look better if we moved this section to the top.” Immediately, I saw a few skeptical looks around the room. Despite having a valid point, my preamble made it easy for others to dismiss my suggestion.
So next time you’re tempted to use this phrase, try stating your opinion outright or simply asking a question. You might say, “What if we moved this section to the top?”
This invites discussion and shows you’re engaged in the conversation without undermining your own intelligence.
3) “Irregardless”
“Irregardless” is one of those words that can instantly set off alarm bells for language purists.
Although it has found its way into some dictionaries, it’s still considered nonstandard English—and for good reason.
The word is essentially a double negative, combining “regardless” with the unnecessary prefix “ir-,” which already implies “not.” The result? A word that confuses more than it clarifies and might make you seem less polished in your speech.
Instead, stick with “regardless.” It’s simpler, correct, and sends the same message without raising eyebrows.
4) “I could care less”
This is a phrase we often use when we want to express disinterest or indifference about something. However, the phrase “I could care less” is actually a misstatement.
If you say, “I could care less”, it implies that you have some level of care for the subject, when what you really mean to say is that you have no interest at all.
The correct phrase should be “I couldn’t care less”, indicating that your level of interest is so low that it couldn’t possibly be less.
It might seem like a minor mistake, but using the correct phrase can make you sound more articulate and knowledgeable. Pay attention to these little details in your speech. They can make a big difference in how others perceive your intelligence!
5) “For all intensive purposes”
This commonly misused phrase is often spoken as “for all intensive purposes”, when in fact the correct phrase is “for all intents and purposes”. The correct phrase means “in every practical sense”.
When we say “for all intensive purposes”, it doesn’t really make much sense. What’s an intensive purpose anyway?
Misusing this phrase can make you come across as less informed, even if you’re trying to sound sophisticated.
6) “I’m just saying”
At first glance, “I’m just saying” might seem like a harmless phrase to tack onto the end of a statement. It’s often used as a way to soften criticism or clarify that you’re sharing an opinion.
However, it can come across as dismissive or passive-aggressive, undermining the value of what you just said.
For example, saying, “That report could have been more detailed—I’m just saying,” might make you seem unsure about your feedback or unwilling to fully stand behind your words.
Instead, leave this phrase out entirely.
If you have something to say, say it with confidence and let your point stand on its own. By doing so, you’ll convey authority and self-assurance, which can go a long way in helping you come across as more intelligent.
7) “Whatever”
Here’s a word I used to use quite a bit, especially during my teenage years: “Whatever.” This single word, often tossed out during arguments or moments of frustration, can come across as dismissive and disrespectful.
When you say “whatever,” it signals a lack of interest, a refusal to engage, or an unwillingness to find a resolution. Instead of contributing to meaningful conversation, it tends to shut it down, leaving others feeling unheard or dismissed.
Rather than defaulting to “whatever,” try expressing your feelings or concerns more constructively.
For example, instead of saying, “Whatever, it doesn’t matter,” you could say, “I’m not sure I agree, but let’s discuss this further.” This approach keeps the conversation open and demonstrates emotional maturity—both of which contribute to being perceived as more intelligent and thoughtful.
8) “Like”
Lastly, here’s the big one.
The word “like” is often used as a filler word in our conversations. However, when we use “like” excessively, it disrupts the flow of our thoughts and can make our statements sound uncertain or unconfident. It’s a verbal crutch that we tend to lean on when we’re nervous or unsure.
So, if you want to come across as more intelligent, practice eliminating “like” from your vocabulary, especially when it’s not necessary. It might take some practice, but the impact on your communication skills will be well worth the effort!
Final words: The Power of Language
By simply refraining from using certain phrases, we can dramatically improve our perceived intelligence.
So the next time you speak, remember the power your words hold. Choose them wisely and make every word count. After all, language is not just a tool for communication, it’s an instrument of influence.
Let’s ensure we’re playing it right!
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