There’s a fine line between a woman playing hard to get and a woman who’s genuinely interested, but wants you to chase her. It’s all about understanding the subtle clues she leaves behind.
Deciphering these signals can feel like trying to solve a complex puzzle, especially when your emotions are involved. But don’t worry, I’m here to help you crack the code.
As the founder of the Love Connection blog and a relationship expert, I have spent years studying the enigmatic language of love and attraction. And today, I’m going to share with you seven signs, backed by psychology, indicating that a woman is deeply into you but wants you to chase her.
Get ready to unravel the mysteries of her heart and make your move with confidence. Trust me, it’s easier than you might think once you know what to look for. Now, let’s dive into those signs.
1) She creates opportunities for interaction
You see, when a woman is genuinely interested in you, she’ll find ways to be around you. It’s a natural instinct to want to be near the people we like.
But if she’s playing the chase game, her approach will be more subtle. She won’t outright tell you that she wants to spend time with you, instead, she’ll create opportunities for interaction.
She might show up at your regular spots or events where she knows you’ll be present. Or maybe she’ll suddenly take interest in activities you’re into. Believe me, it’s no coincidence.
It’s an unspoken invitation for you to make a move. She’s creating these scenarios because she wants you to notice her and take the lead.
So keep an eye out for these unexpected meetings or sudden shared interests. It’s her way of saying “I’m here, and I want you to pursue me.” But remember, the ball is in your court.
2) She seems distant at times
Now, this might seem contradictory, but hear me out. A woman who is into you but wants you to chase her may occasionally appear distant or aloof.
You might think she’s losing interest or that you’ve done something wrong. But in reality, it’s often a strategic move to make you want her more.
By creating a slight gap between you two, she stokes the flames of your desire. The ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ idea comes into play here.
She wants to see if you’ll bridge the distance and pursue her. It’s a way for her to gauge your interest level and commitment.
Don’t be too quick to interpret her aloofness as disinterest. Instead, see it as a challenge – an invitation for you to step up your game and prove that you’re truly interested.
3) She’s independent, yet appreciative of your efforts
In my years of experience, I’ve found that women who want to be chased often exhibit a strong sense of independence. She’s comfortable in her own skin, has her own interests and doesn’t need you to complete her. But she’s also appreciative of the efforts you make.
She’ll express gratitude when you do something nice for her, but she won’t rely on you for her happiness. This balance is key. She wants to be pursued, but not needed.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I talk about the importance of maintaining individuality within a relationship and avoiding codependency.
This is exactly what she’s doing. She’s maintaining her individuality but also inviting you in – a delicate dance that shows she’s interested but wants you to chase her.
4) She’s subtly flirty but never too forward
A woman who is into you, but wants you to chase her, will often engage in subtle flirtation. She’ll charm you with her wit, her smile, or that playful sparkle in her eyes. But she’ll never cross the line to being overly forward.
It’s a delicate balancing act, one she’s mastered to perfection. She keeps you intrigued, yet guessing. And it’s in this guessing game where the chase truly lies.
As the legendary Marilyn Monroe once said, “A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows that she has none.” This woman is both wise and smart. She knows how to stoke your interest without giving everything away.
Trust me when I say, the more subtly she flirts, the more she wants you to chase her. So pay attention to these little nuances of her behavior. They’re worth their weight in gold.
5) She’s a great listener
Now, this might not seem like a big deal, but trust me, it is. A woman who’s into you and wants you to chase her will genuinely listen when you talk. She’ll remember the details – that story about your childhood dog, how you like your coffee, the name of your favorite book.
Why? Because she’s genuinely interested in getting to know you. She’s investing her time and attention in you – one of the most precious gifts anyone can give.
Over the years, I’ve learned to pay close attention to how well someone listens. It’s a clear indicator of their interest level.
If she’s hanging onto your every word and remembers details even you’ve forgotten, take it as a solid sign. She’s into you and hoping you’ll chase her.
6) She’s comfortable showing vulnerability
There’s something incredibly beautiful about vulnerability. It shows trust, courage, and a willingness to take risks. A woman who’s into you but wants you to chase her will often show signs of vulnerability.
She’ll let you in on her fears, her dreams, her past. But she won’t lay it all out there. It’s a gradual process – a hint here, a reveal there – inviting you to dig deeper.
As the wise Brené Brown says, “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” This woman is showing up for you, and it’s up to you to appreciate her courage and respond.
If you’d like more insights like these delivered straight to your feed, feel free to follow me on Facebook at Tina Fey’s Love Connection. I share my latest articles and thoughts there regularly. But for now, let’s dive into our final sign.
7) She’s not always easy
Now, this is where we get real. A woman who’s into you but wants you to chase her isn’t going to be all sunshine and rainbows all the time. There will be moments of discomfort and disagreement.
Why? Because she’s not just playing a game here. She’s emotionally invested in you and that means there will be highs and lows. She’ll challenge you, provoke you, and push your buttons at times.
It’s not because she enjoys the drama, but because she wants to see if you’re willing to stick around even when things get tough – if you’re willing to chase her even when she’s not at her best.
Remember, real relationships aren’t flawless. They’re raw, they’re messy, and they’re beautiful in their complexity. So if she’s showing you this side of her, consider it a sign. She’s into you…deeply.
Conclusion: The chase is more than just a game
The dance of attraction can be a complex and exhilarating experience, full of subtle signals and nuanced behaviors. When a woman is into you but wants you to chase her, she’s inviting you into this intricate dance and showing her interest in a uniquely intriguing way.
Understanding these signs can help you navigate the often confusing world of dating and relationships, providing a clearer picture of her intentions and feelings. But remember, every woman is unique, and these signs are not one-size-fits-all. They offer a guide, not a guarantee.
In the end, it all comes down to genuine connection, respect, and understanding – the foundations of any successful relationship. As Albert Einstein said, “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.”
For those wanting to delve deeper into these complexities, I recommend watching this insightful video by Justin Brown. He explores the significance of shared values and mutual support in a relationship, offering valuable lessons for those navigating the journey of finding a compatible partner.
Remember, love is a beautiful journey, not a destination. Enjoy the chase and let it lead you to unexpected discoveries about yourself and your potential partner.
Because at the end of the day, it’s not just about finding the right person, but also about being the right person.
Feeling stuck in self-doubt?
Stop trying to fix yourself and start embracing who you are. Join the free 7-day self-discovery challenge and learn how to transform negative emotions into personal growth.
