There’s often a fine line between genuine kindness and feigned niceness.
As a relationship expert, I’ve seen it all, and let me tell you, when a woman is pretending to be nice, she tends to exhibit some pretty unique behaviors.
Now, it’s not about calling someone out or accusing them of being fake.
It’s about understanding human behavior and the subtle nuances that make us who we are.
In this article, we’ll explore seven distinct behaviors typically displayed by women who are putting on the charm.
Not to judge, but to better navigate the complex world of relationships and interactions.
1) Overly enthusiastic greeting
Ever noticed a hint of exaggeration in someone’s hello?
A too-wide smile, a too-enthusiastic wave, or a too-loud “Hi!” can often be a sign of feigned niceness.
In my experience, when a woman is genuinely nice, she doesn’t need to overdo her greetings.
She’s comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t have to shout from the rooftops that she’s friendly.
But when she’s pretending to be nice, she might feel the need to overcompensate.
She’ll be the first one to wave, the loudest one to laugh, and the most eager to make her presence known.
It’s not a foolproof sign, of course.
Some people are naturally more expressive and animated.
But an overly enthusiastic greeting can sometimes be a telltale sign of someone trying a bit too hard to come across as nice.
2) Less eye contact
Contrary to what you might expect, when a woman is pretending to be nice, she may actually make less eye contact than usual.
Eye contact is a powerful form of non-verbal communication.
It’s often a sign of trust, honesty, and genuine connection.
When we’re genuinely happy to see someone, we naturally look them in the eye.
But maintaining eye contact requires a certain level of comfort and sincerity.
If a woman is pretending to be nice, she might find it hard to maintain eye contact because she’s not being sincere.
Research indicates that individuals who are motivated to deceive may make less eye contact due to increased cognitive load.
3) Unnecessary compliments
Sometimes, a woman pretending to be nice will shower you with compliments.
And while everyone loves a good compliment, there can be such a thing as too much praise.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I talk about the importance of genuine and healthy communication.
And needless to say, excessive flattery isn’t part of that.
If every conversation is filled with over-the-top praise, it can feel insincere.
Genuine compliments are wonderful, but when they’re used excessively or inaccurately, it might be a sign that the person is trying to win you over with niceness rather than sincerity.
True kindness doesn’t require constant validation or approval.
It’s about being honest, respectful and considerate in your interactions.
4) They’re always in agreement
Disagreement is a natural part of life.
We all have our own thoughts, opinions and beliefs.
But when a woman is pretending to be nice, she might avoid disagreement at all costs.
In my years of experience, I’ve noticed that people who are always in agreement are often trying to avoid conflict or disapproval.
It’s as if they’re saying “Yes” to everything just to keep the peace.
But as the great Winston Churchill once said, “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”
True kindness involves having the courage to express your own opinions, even if they might be different.
If someone never disagrees with you or always seems to be on your side, it could be a sign that they’re pretending to be nice, rather than truly respecting your individuality and freedom of thought.
5) They never reveal personal details
Sharing personal details is part of building a genuine connection.
It shows trust, openness, and authenticity. But when a woman is pretending to be nice, she might steer clear of revealing too much about herself.
In my own interactions, I’ve noticed that people who are being insincere often keep conversations surface-level.
They’ll ask about your day or your plans for the weekend, but they’re careful not to delve into anything too personal.
This could be because revealing personal details requires a level of vulnerability that doesn’t align with their aim of appearing nice and perfect all the time.
Research indicates that individuals may withhold personal information to manage privacy boundaries and control social interactions.
So, if you find that someone is always eager to chat but never really shares anything about their own life, it could be a sign that their niceness isn’t all it seems to be.
6) They never initiate contact
In the dance of human interaction, it’s always a two-way street.
But when a woman is pretending to be nice, she might never be the one to initiate contact.
In my observations, I’ve found that people who are genuinely nice and interested in you will reach out just to check in or chat.
They’ll send a text, make a call, or even drop a friendly comment on your post.
But those pretending to be nice often wait for you to make the first move.
They’ll respond with enthusiasm when you reach out, but they’ll rarely be the ones to initiate.
As the wise Maya Angelou once said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
If someone is always waiting for you to make the first move, it might leave you feeling less valued and important.
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7) They’re never at fault
One of the hardest things to do is admitting when we’re wrong.
But it’s an essential part of being a mature, sincere individual.
When a woman is pretending to be nice, however, she may never accept any blame or admit any faults.
It’s as if they exist in a world where they can do no wrong.
They deflect criticism, make excuses or even blame others.
This behavior is not only insincere but also damaging to relationships.
Research indicates that individuals who consistently refuse to admit mistakes may possess fragile egos, leading them to distort reality to protect their self-image.
Being genuinely nice means having the courage to accept your mistakes and the humility to learn from them.
No one is perfect, and pretending to be so isn’t being nice, it’s being dishonest.
Concluding thoughts
Human behavior is a fascinating and complex thing, isn’t it?
Within its folds, we find a myriad of signs and signals that reveal the truth of our intentions.
When it comes to feigned niceness, it’s important to remember that these signs are not about passing judgment or accusing someone of being fake.
Instead, they’re designed to give you insights into the complexities of human behavior and help you navigate your relationships more effectively.
Understanding these signs can lead to deeper connections, better communication, and healthier relationships.
It’s not about catching someone out; it’s about promoting authenticity in our interactions.
As we wrap up this exploration, I’d like to recommend a video that I believe beautifully extends our discussion.
This video by Justin Brown explores the complexities of finding a life partner, reflecting on his personal experience after a failed date and the lessons he learned.
From understanding the importance of shared values to the significance of growth and mutual support in a relationship, he shares his top insights to help you navigate the journey of finding a compatible partner.
Remember, every interaction, every relationship is an opportunity for growth and learning.
Let’s continue this journey together, promoting authenticity, kindness, and understanding in all our connections.
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